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Illustration by Emma Block

It wasn’t until my mom fell ill that I realised how much I still wanted to ask her. About who she used to be, about her dreams, big and small. But I also realised I did not tell her often enough how important she was to me. That’s when I created Mum, Tell Me, a book filled with questions about her life. It was my way of showing how much I loved her. And she loved filling it out. Whilst working on the book, I noticed that our bond changed. We got talking and connected in a way we never had before. What she gave me back, was so much more than just answers. Her stories prompted whole new conversations and our connection deepened. We spoke about her past, being a woman and becoming a mother. By getting to know my mother, I also got to know myself.

After I shared the book with others, it soon became clear that I wasn’t the only person who’d never asked these questions. Many people had a similar experience and felt that they didn’t really know their own mum. We live in a busy and fast-paced world. Glued to our phones, trying to keep up with everything life throws at us. And I believe that in all the hustle and bustle we sometimes forget what truly matters. Happiness lies in the fleeting moments and memories you share, and the connection you have with people that matter the most to you. 

As a daughter, it's easy to forget your mother was young once. That she had her own life before you came along. There is so much to find out! So, grab a cup of tea, put your phone away and have a conversation with your mum that could change your relationship forever.

But where to start? Don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be complicated or take hours. Just simply begin by asking a few simple questions. In the course of the years I have found that having undivided attention and simply asking her something new is the best starting point. I hope these five questions will make you laugh, talk and discover together:

Five questions to ask your mum

1. Did you enjoy being a child?
2. What were your parents like when you were young?
3. Who was your first love?
4. What is your biggest accomplishment?
5. How did having children change your life?

I believe that connecting with our loved ones is the key to happiness. And It seems so elementary when I say it out loud, I know. But just by talking about things you never knew about her, you become closer. Talk about her thoughts and her experiences, her dreams and wishes. And by getting to know the people that matter most to you better, we strengthen the bonds that make us happy. And that happiness doesn't have to wait. It can be found, starting today, just by making a bit of time to talk. 

 
 
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    Mum, Tell Me is a gift book that gives you the chance to ask your mother all those questions you'd always wondered about, and plenty you hadn't. Questions like

    - What did you want to be when you grew up?
    - Did you ever have your heart broken?
    - What is one of the most beautiful or special things you've achieved in life?
    - How did motherhood change you?

    Once she's answered them, she gives the book back to you. And you'll be left with a lasting chronicle of your mum's memories, dreams, wishes and stories; a personal keepsake to treasure.

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