One morning, half-awake in a shame spiral about what a shitty mother you are because you’re letting your kid watch so much TV, the phone rings.
‘Jilly? Are you sitting down?’
Are you sitting down? means something fucked up is coming…
When Jill Soloway’s father, whom they had always understood to be male, came out as transgender, everything shifted. For one, the moment became the inspiration to push through the male-dominated landscape of Hollywood and create the award-winning TV series Transparent. Exploring identity, love, sexuality, and the blurring of boundaries, the show gave birth to a new cultural consciousness. But also, by eventually coming out as queer and non-binary, the lines on Jill’s own gender map began to be erased.
This is the story of that journey.
She Wants It charts Jill's intense and revelatory experience, growing from straight, divorced, mother of two – to non-binary genderqueer director, show creator, and activist. Written with wild candour and razor-edged humour, it examines who we are, how we make art – and ultimately, who we can become.
The unforgettable collection of autobiographical essays from Jill Soloway, the creator and director of Transparent and Emmy-nominated writer for Six Feet Under.
When Jill was just thirteen, she and her best friend donned the tightest satin pants they could find, poufed up their hair and squeezed into Candies heels, then headed to downtown Chicago in search of their one-and-only true loves forever: the members of whichever rock band was touring through town. Never mind that both girls still had braces, coke-bottle-thick glasses and had only just bought their first bras...they were fabulous, they felt beautiful, they were tiny ladies in shiny pants.
But as an all grown up and a successful writer and producer, Jill came to look back on her tiny self and share her shiny tales with fondness, absurdity, and obsessive-compulsive attention to even the most embarrassing details. From the highly personal (conflating her own loss of virginity and the Kobe Bryant accusations), to the political (what she has in common with Monica Lewinsky and Chandra Levy), to the outrageously Los Angelean (why women wear huge diamonds and what they must do to get them),Tiny Ladies in Shiny Pants is a classic genre-defying combination of personal essay and memoir, or a hilarious, unruly and unapologetic evaluation of society, religion, sex and love.
Jill Soloway is the Emmy and Golden Globe Award-winning creator of Transparent. Previously a writer and executive producer for Six Feet Under, How to Make It in America, and United States of Tara, Jill’s first feature film, Afternoon Delight, won the 2013 Directing Award at Sundance. They also co-created and directed the Amazon series I Love Dick. Jill lives in Los Angeles.