The Done Thing

The Done Thing

Summary

This is a book for those who unashamedly want manners in the world. They are the essence of living together. And we are struggling to find rules that we can agree on in a new world where change and uncertainty are a way of life and personal responsibility is at a disastrous low.

No-one wants to bow and scrape to the rhythms of outdated etiquette any more.We need to seek out the original social purpose of manners and apply the principles to life today. We need rules of respect for each other and an agreement to stick to them. Combining an appeal to history, anthropology and common sense with a witty disdain for the sillier snobberies of the traditionalists, Simon Fanshawe has borrowed the format of Erasmus's great work on behaviour, De Civilitate Morum Puerilum, and created a modern basis for good manners.

So it doesn't matter if you pass the port to the right or the left as long as it goes in one direction and that way everyone gets a drink. Hold your knife any way you want except as a weapon so strangers will never feel threatened at your table. Date, eat, work, speak, dress, talk on your mobile, tip, text, take your children to eat out in any way you like as long as you do it in a way that respects other people. This is a campaign. Join now and march.

About the author

Simon Fanshawe

Simon Fanshawe is a Perrier Award winning comic, writer and broadcaster. He has his own series on Radio Four - Fanshawe Gets To The Bottom Off- - as well as working on other series; The Reference Library, Live From London and guest hosting, Loose Ends, Quote Unquote, and Word of Mouth. He writes for the Guardian, Observer and Telegraph and is about to start a new series for Radio Two - Powerfully Funny - interviews with famous comedians. He lives in Brighton, where he is chairman of the Economic Partnership and was instrumental in Brighton's campaign to become a city in 2002.
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