Extracts

A Note to Self by Lily Collins

Lily Collin's letter from her book Unfiltered reminds us all 'that we deserve to be treated with kindness and respect’

A Note to Self

I deserve happiness. I deserve to be loved just as I love others. I deserve everything

When someone else casts their darkness on me, I can use it to learn and to grow. I shouldn’t dwell on the things they said to me or the way they made me feel. Those words were not true. They were not kind. And I deserve to be spoken to only with kindness. My worth is not defined by their actions because their actions are not a reflection of my worth. Those actions say much more about who they are than who I am. When I love, I love hard. And I won’t let someone trample over my heart. I won’t convince myself that they were, and still are, the only person who will ever love me. That’s not love. That’s not how love is supposed to feel. But there is someone out there who will show me what real, honest love is. They will respect and accept me for me and won’t make me feel less than. In order to find that person and truly let them in, first I must believe in myself and know my own value. It’s not selfish to want these things nor is it selfish to think them. I deserve happiness. I deserve to be loved just as I love others. I deserve everything. I must forgive myself for being in some of the situations I’ve been in. For staying. For putting up with less than I deserve. There is no shame in what I went through. Forgiving myself is just as important as forgiving others. But now I know. Now I know I deserve to be the happiest, most fulfilled version of myself that I can possibly be. And I promise to use my experiences to continue to grow, heal, and expand my life. It starts with me. In  order to accept the love I deserve from someone else, I must truly believe that I am worthy of it. And I am. And I’ll never let anyone tell me differently. I value myself. I respect myself. I appreciate myself. I accept myself. I love myself.

Always and forever.

Me xo

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