Accessible psychotherapy to put us back in touch with our emotions, from the Mental Health Consultant to Mad Men
In this practical and fascinating new account of psychological suffering, pioneering psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel shows that we should focus not on cognitive behavioural therapy or medication, but on our emotions. We were all taught that our thoughts affect our emotions, but in truth it is largely the other way around: we have to experience our emotions to truly understand our thoughts and our full selves.
And our emotions offer a more direct pathway to healing. It's Not Always Depression reveals the most effective techniques for putting us back in touch with the emotions we too often deny - methods which can be used by anyone, any time, anywhere. Drawing on stories from her own practice, Jacobs Hendel sheds light on the core emotions (such as joy, sadness and fear), defences (anything we do to avoid feeling) and inhibitory emotions (anxiety, shame and guilt), and how understanding their interaction can help us return to mental wellbeing - and quickly.
If we avoid our emotions, this requires energy that might otherwise help us be our authentic selves and be calm, curious and connected. Reacquaint yourself with your emotions, and recover a vital, more engaged, more authentic self.
The bottom line is this: if you're a human, I recommend that you read this book.
I loved it ... I have drawn my own picture of the change triangle.
What is unique in this book is Hendel's mission to take psychotherapeutic tools and present and rework them in a way that can be used by individuals . . . like Penn and Teller showing us how a magic trick is really done . . . she is able to translate the method in ways that individuals can use for themselves . . . the genius of this book is converting formal psychotherapeutic strategies into a self-help toolbox