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Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

Hold on to Your Kids

Gabor Maté’s connections—between the intensely personal and the global, the spiritual and the medical, the psychological and the political—are bold, wise and deeply moral. He is a healer to be cherished

Naomi Klein, author of No Logo and The Shock Doctrine

A visionary book that goes beyond the usual explanations to illuminate a crisis of unrecognized proportions. The authors show us how we are losing contact with our children and how this loss undermines their development and threatens the very fabric of society. Most importantly they offer, through concrete examples and clear suggestions, practical help for parents to fulfil their instinctual roles. A brilliant and well written book – one to be taken very seriously

Peter A. Levine Ph.D., International teacher and author of the bestselling books: Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma and It Won't Hurt Forever, Guiding Your Child through Trauma

Hold on to Your Kids brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting. The authors integrate psychology, anthropology, neurology and their own personal and professional experiences…. a worthy book with practical implications

Dr Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia and The Shelter of Each Other

Maté’s book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light

Hold On to Your Kids is full of easy tips for avoiding calamity

Gabor Maté (Author) Dr Gabor Maté is a retired physician and bestselling author of five books published across six continents. He is an internationally renowned speaker. His most recent book, The Myth of Normal, has been translated into more than 40 languages and is a New York Times, Sunday Times and international bestseller. Gordon Neufeld (Author) Gordon Neufeld PhD, is a Vancouver-based 
clinical psychologist, internationally renowned as a foremost authority on child development. His Neufeld Institute delivers many courses he has created for parents, educators, and helping professionals on several continents. He is recognized for his unique ability to unlock the clues to seemingly complex problems of child rearing and education.

Are your children more influenced by their friends than by you? 
Are they struggling with peer pressure, screen time, or staying connected in a digital world? 
 
In Hold On To Your Kids, bestselling author and renowned physician Gabor Maté and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld reveal why modern parenting feels harder than ever - and what you can do about it. 
 
WINNER OF THE US NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD  
THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER 
 
‘A visionary book…one to be taken very seriously’ Peter A. Levine Ph.D., bestselling author of Guiding Your Child Through Trauma 
 
‘Bold, wise and deeply moral. [Maté] is a healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling The Shock Doctrine 
 
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Today’s children are increasingly looking to their peers, rather than their parents, for direction in their values, identity, and codes of behaviour. But this ‘peer orientation’ can interfere with healthy development, leading to anxiety, disconnection, and behavioural challenges. 
 
In this groundbreaking parenting book, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with clinical psychologist and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld to explain the cause of this breakdown of parental influence and offer practical advice on how to rebuild a strong, healthy relationship with your child. 
 
Hold On To Your Kids will show you how to:<ul><li>Strengthen your bond and reconnect with your child </li><li>Help children resist peer pressure and social media influence </li><li>Build trust, authority and security at home </li><li>Support your child’s emotional wellbeing and mental health </li><li>Raise confident, resilient children </li></ul> 
This updated edition also includes a new chapter on post-pandemic parenting and youth mental health. 
 
Blending child psychology and real-world advice, this book will empower parents to help their children thrive in the digital era and become a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their kids. 
 
Praise for Hold On To Your Kids: 
 
‘Maté’s book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light’ Guardian 
 
‘Brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting’ Dr Mary Pipher, psychologist and bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia 
 
‘Full of easy tips for avoiding calamity’ The Times 
 
‘Has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children.' US National Post

The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder

Scattered Minds

Bestselling author and clinician Gabor Maté proposes a radical new theory on the ADD epidemic

Gabor Maté’s connections—between the intensely personal and the global, the spiritual and the medical, the psychological and the political—are bold, wise and deeply moral. He is a healer to be cherished and this exciting book arrives at just the right time

His medical background and lucid writing style make complex biological processes accessible to non-scientific readers.

Rare and refreshing. . . . Here you will find family stories, an accessible description of brain development and sound information. You will also find hope.

Dr Gabor Maté is a retired physician and bestselling author of five books published across six continents. He is an internationally renowned speaker. His most recent book, The Myth of Normal, has been translated into more than 40 languages and is a New York Times, Sunday Times and international bestseller.

FROM THE MULTI-MILLION-COPY BESTELLING AUHTOR OF WHEN THE BODY SAYS NO 
 
The groundbreaking guide to Attention Deficit Disorder, challenging conventional myths around ADHD and providing practical guidance for children and adults. 
 
‘A healer to be cherished and this exciting book arrives at just the right time’ Naomi Klein, bestselling author of The Shock Doctrine 
 
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Struggling with focus, impulsivity, or emotional overwhelm? 
Looking to better understand ADHD in yourself or your child? 
 
In his empowering and accessible bestseller, celebrated clinician Dr Gabor Maté seeks to dispel the myth of attention deficit disorder as genetically based – and offers real hope and advice for children and adults who live with the condition. 
 
Drawing on decades of experience in psychology, neurology and child development – as well as his own lived experience with ADHD - Dr Maté offers a compassionate and insightful approach to understanding attention difficulties. 
 
In Scattered Minds, you’ll discover: 
<ul><li>A new understanding of ADHD and neurological development in both children and adults</li><li>Why challenges with focus, impulsivity and emotional regulation develop</li><li>How early experiences can shape the developing brain</li><li>Practical insights to help parents better understand and support their children</li><li>Tools for adults with ADHD to make sense of their behaviours and emotions</li></ul> 
Blending science, compassionate insight and real-life examples, Scattered Minds is an essential read for parents of children with ADHD, or for adults navigating neurodiversity and attention difficulties.

The Cost of Hidden Stress

When the Body Says No

How does stress influence chronic illness? Bestselling author Gabor Maté provides a riveting exploration of the mind-body connection.

Rare and refreshing. . . . Here you will find family stories, an accessible description of brain development and sound information. You will also find hope

His medical background and lucid writing style make complex biological processes accessible to non-scientific readers

An insightful read that makes you realise that without your health nothing really matters

The bestselling guide to the mind-body connection, revealing how stress and trauma contribute to illness and disease – and how to heal. From the author of The Myth of Normal. 
 
‘A healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling author of The Shock Doctrine 
 
‘A most important book…it could save your life’ Dr Peter Levine, bestselling author of Waking the Tiger 
 
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Can a person literally die of loneliness? 
Is there a connection between the ability to express emotions and Alzheimer's disease? 
Is there such a thing as a 'cancer personality'? 
 
In this groundbreaking book, Dr Gabor Maté shows how emotional stress and hidden trauma play a powerful role in the onset of chronic illness, cancer, and many other serious conditions. 
 
Drawing on decades of clinical experience and scientific research, Maté reveals how the mind-body connection shapes your health, and how unresolved stress can manifest in the body as illness. 
 
With compassion, warmth and empathy, When The Body Says No: <ul><li>Explores how the mind-body link influences conditions and diseases such as arthritis, cancer, diabetes, heart disease, irritable bowel syndrome and multiple sclerosis </li><li>Shares dozens of enlightening case studies and personal and moving stories, including those of people such as Lou Gehrig (ALS), Betty Ford (breast cancer), Ronald Reagan (Alzheimer's), Gilda Radner (ovarian cancer) and Lance Armstrong (testicular cancer) </li><li>Reveals 'The Seven A's of Healing': principles in healing and the prevention of illness from hidden stress </li></ul> 
Combining medical science, psychology and compassionate storytelling, When The Body Says No will empower you to understand your body, reduce stress, and take control of your health.

Close Encounters with Addiction

In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts

A groundbreaking work on the root causes of addiction – and how to heal it – from the legendary Dr Gabor Maté

The award-winning bestseller on the root causes of addiction – and how to heal it – from the author of When the Body Say No, Dr Gabor Maté 
 
‘[Maté] is a healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling author of The Shock Doctrine 
 
'One of the most important, wise and compassionate voices in the world on addiction. Everyone should read this profound book' Johann Hari, author of Lost Connections 
 
What causes addiction? And how can we truly heal from it? 
 
In his profound and compassionate book, leading voice in trauma and addiction recovery, Dr Gabor Maté, explores the psychology of addiction and the path to self-understanding and healing. 
 
As one of the world’s most revered thinkers on the psychology of addiction, his radical findings – based on decades of work with patients challenged by catastrophic drug addiction and mental illness – are reframing how we view all human development. 
 
In his groundbreaking work, now updated with a new chapter on the Opioid crisis, Maté takes a holistic and compassionate approach to addiction, whether to alcohol, drugs, sex, money or anything self-destructive. He presents addiction not as a discrete phenomenon confined to a weak-willed few, but as a continuum that runs through (and even underpins) our society; not as a medical ‘condition’, but rather the result of a complex interplay of personal history, emotional development, and brain chemistry. 
 
Distilling cutting-edge research from around the world, Maté avoids glib self-help remedies, instead promoting self-understanding as the first key to healing and wellness. 
 
Blending personal stories and science with positive solutions, and written in spellbinding prose, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts is a compassionate must-read that has transformed how we think about healing, trauma, and addiction.

Gabor Maté is one of the most important, wise and compassionate voices in the world on addiction. Everyone should read this profound book

Johann Hari, author of Chasing the Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs

I recommend this wonderful book for anyone struggling with the heartache of addiction personally or professionally. Gabor Maté makes the thought-provoking and powerful arguments that human connections heal; and that the poverty of relationships in the modern world contribute to our vulnerability to unhealthy addictions of all manner. His uniquely humane perspective—all too absent from much of the ‘modern’ approach to addictions—should be a part of the training of all therapists, social workers, and physicians

Bruce Perry, MD, PhD, Child Trauma Academy Houston, and co-author of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog

With unparalleled sympathy for the human condition, Gabor Maté depicts the suffocation of the spirit by addictive urges, and holds up a dark mirror to our society. This is a powerful narrative of the realm of human nature where confused and conflicted emotions underlie our pretensions to rational thought

Dr Jaak Panksepp, author of Affective Neuroscience

In its sheer force, originality and deep scholarship, this book represents a landmark in the theory, treatment and prevention of addictive disorders. No-one seriously interested in this subject can afford not to be aware of what it says about addiction and how we should respond to it

Nick Heather PhD, Northumbria University, UK

An insightful, multilayered discussion of the nature of addiction generally, and our society’s epidemic of addictions in particular

The award-winning bestseller on the root causes of addiction – and how to heal it – from the author of When the Body Say No, Dr Gabor Maté 
 
‘[Maté] is a healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling author of The Shock Doctrine 
 
'One of the most important, wise and compassionate voices in the world on addiction. Everyone should read this profound book' Johann Hari, author of Lost Connections 
 
What causes addiction? And how can we truly heal from it? 
 
In his profound and compassionate book, leading voice in trauma and addiction recovery, Dr Gabor Maté, explores the psychology of addiction and the path to self-understanding and healing. 
 
As one of the world’s most revered thinkers on the psychology of addiction, his radical findings – based on decades of work with patients challenged by catastrophic drug addiction and mental illness – are reframing how we view?all?human development. 
 
In his groundbreaking work, now updated with a new chapter on the Opioid crisis, Maté takes a holistic and compassionate approach to addiction, whether to alcohol, drugs, sex, money or anything self-destructive. He presents addiction not as a discrete phenomenon confined to a weak-willed few, but as a continuum that runs through (and even underpins) our society; not as a medical ‘condition’, but rather the result of a complex interplay of personal history, emotional development, and brain chemistry. 
 
Distilling cutting-edge research from around the world, Maté avoids glib self-help remedies, instead promoting self-understanding as the first key to healing and wellness. 
 
Blending personal stories and science with positive solutions, and written in spellbinding prose, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts is a compassionate must-read that has transformed how we think about healing, trauma, and addiction.

A Fresh Start for Parents and Adult Children

Hello Again

Discover the true potential of one of the most important relationships in your life

Gabor Maté is one of the most interesting and original voices now out there addressing the crisis of mental health in our culture.

Gabor Maté’s connections – between the intensely personal and the global, the spiritual and the medical, the psychological and the political – are bold, wise and deeply moral. He is a healer to be cherished

Dr. Maté has completely transformed how the world sees, talks about and understands trauma. And he has absolutely had that impact on me and it's been life-changing

Gabor Maté (Author) 
Dr Gabor Maté is a retired physician and bestselling author of five books published across six continents. He is an internationally renowned speaker. His most recent book, The Myth of Normal, has been translated into more than 40 languages and is a New York Times, Sunday Times and international bestseller. 
 
Daniel Maté (Author) 
Daniel Maté is an acclaimed musical theatre songwriter and a playwright whose work has been performed across multiple continents. Since 2024 Daniel has co-hosted the popular political satire podcast 'Bad Hasbara: The World's Most Moral Podcast.'

For anyone who has ever thought, 'I love them – so why is this so hard?' 
 
From the New York Times bestselling authors of The Myth of Normal, a path forward for both parents and adult children locked in a difficult relationship. 
 
 What happens when the people who shaped you, or the ones you shaped, are the very ones you can’t seem to reach – or can’t bear to be close to anymore?In Hello Again, clinician and trauma expert Dr Gabor Maté joins his son Daniel Maté to illuminate the uniquely charged bond between parents and their adult children – a relationship defined by love, history and an imbalance of power that never fully disappears.Drawing on decades of clinical insight, hard-won personal experience and their widely attended workshops, the Matés show why this 'set menu, no substitutions' relationship so often becomes the site of recurring misunderstandings, resentment, withdrawal or explosive conflict – even when both sides genuinely want things to be better.This book doesn’t promise a tidy reconciliation or a 'happy ending.' Instead, it offers something more realistic and more hopeful: a fresh start – whether that means rebuilding closeness, establishing steadier boundaries or finding peace at a distance.Inside you’ll find: 
<ul><li>A clear map of why the parent/adult-child bond is uniquely triggering – and why it’s also uniquely repairable</li><li>Parent and adult-child 'prototype' patterns that reveal what’s really happening beneath the argument</li><li>Practical tools to pause, self-regulate and communicate without collapsing into old roles</li><li>Boundary guidance that protects dignity without hardening into punishment</li><li>A realistic approach to accountability, grief and forgiveness – without self-erasure</li><li>Paths forward that honour safety, including less contact when that is the healthiest choice</li></ul> 
Hello Again is a wise and steady companion toward clearer seeing, truer connection and lasting change.

Gabor Maté

Daniel Maté

Gabor Mate takes us on an epic journey of discovery about how our emotional well-being, and our social connectivity (in short: how we live), is intimately intertwined with health, disease and addictions ... This riveting and beautifully written tale has profound implications for all of our lives, including the practice of medicine and mental health

Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score

Wise, sophisticated, rigorous and creative: an intellectual and compassionate investigation of who we are and who we may become

A book literally everyone will be enriched by - a wise, profound and healing work that is the culmination of Dr Maté's many years of deep and painfully accumulated wisdom

An astonishing achievement, epic in scope and yet profoundly down-to-earth and practical. I will read this book again and again

V (formerly Eve Ensler), author of The Vagina Monologues

Brilliant, compelling and groundbreaking. Gabor Maté offers us a way to bring clear seeing and a greatness of heart to the crisis of our times

A book in which readers can seek refuge and solace during moments of profound personal and social crisis

Esther Perel, psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity

Gabor Maté's connections - between the intensely personal and the global, the spiritual and the medical, the psychological and the political - are bold, wise and deeply moral. He is a healer to be cherished

A compelling book that will challenge your views and help lift the veil of illusion to what is truly happening in your mind and in your body

Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness

Gripping ... a powerful call for change in how we live with, love, understand, treat, and think about each other

Rebecca Solnit, author of Men Explaining Everything To Me

Dr Maté has completely transformed how the world sees, talks about and understands trauma. And he has absolutely had that impact on me and it's been life-changing.

Mel Robbins, #1 global bestselling author of The Let Them Theory

Illness, health & healing in a toxic culture

The empowering book exploring the link between trauma, illness, and modern life – and how to heal your health. From the acclaimed physician and bestselling author of When The Body Says No. 
 
THE INSTANT SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER 
OVER ONE MILLION COPIES SOLD 
 
‘Life-changing’ Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The Let Them Theory 
 
‘Riveting and beautifully written’ Bessel van der Kolk, bestselling author of The Body Keeps Score 
 
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We tend to believe that normality equals health. But in today’s modern world, rising rates of anxiety, depression, addiction and chronic illness suggest otherwise. So, what is normal – and is it making us unwell? 
 
In this life-affirming book, Dr Gabor Maté connects the dots between trauma, mental health, and physical illness, showing how our health is shaped by the pressures and expectations of modern life. 
 
Drawing on decades of clinical experience, and real-life stories of people transforming their bodies and minds, Dr Gabor Maté offers a compassionate and hopeful path to healing, self-awareness and emotional wellbeing. 
 
In The Myth of Normal, you’ll discover: 
<ul><li>Why the illnesses of body and mind can natural responses to a toxic culture</li><li>How stress and emotional suppression affect the body</li><li>The science behind the mind-body connection in healing and wellbeing</li><li>A hopeful path towards resilience, balance and authenticity</li></ul> 
Compassionate and urgent, this empowering bestseller shows how true health is possible when we are willing to embrace our authentic selves. 
 
Praise for The Myth of Normal and Dr Gabor Maté: 
 
‘Genuinely changed my life’ Steven Bartlett, bestselling author of Diary of A CEO 
 
‘Intellectual and compassionate…essential reading’ Tara Westover, bestselling author of Educated 
 
‘A wise, profound and healing work’ Johann Hari, bestselling author of Stolen Focus 
 
‘Brilliant, compelling and groundbreaking book’ Tara Brach, bestselling author of Radical Acceptance and Radical Compassion 
 
‘An essential compass during disorienting times.’ Esther Perel, psychotherapist, bestselling author and host of Where Should We Begin

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