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Are You Mad At Me?

Stop Focusing on What Others Think, Start Living for You

Are you constantly worried about what people think of you, if they like you, if they’re mad at you?

This book will help you understand why. We’ve all heard of fight, flight or freeze. Psychotherapist Meg Josephson reveals a fourth common yet overlooked trauma response: ‘fawning’, or people-pleasing. If you ever:

• Leave social situations overthinking something you’ve said
• Overlook your own boundaries to make other people happy
• Struggle to say what you really want – even to yourself

. . . you might be fawning. In Are You Mad at Me?, Meg explodes the idea that people-pleasing is a personality trait, exposing it to be an instinct learned in childhood to become more appealing to a perceived threat in order to feel safe. Yet many people are stuck in this way of being for their whole lives.

Weaving her own moving story with case studies and thought-provoking exercises, Meg will show you how to identify your needs, rethink conflict and build stronger connections: empowering you to stop focusing on what others think and start living for you.

I can count on one hand the books that have settled my nervous system within the first three pages of reading. It’s so rare to be able to say: I needed this book, me too, thank you.

Holly Whitaker, author of QUIT LIKE A WOMAN

About Meg Josephson

Meg Josephson is a psychotherapist, meditation teacher and content creator who shares insights into how we can improve our mental wellbeing across Instagram, TikTok and Substack. Meg takes complex yet common human experiences and breaks them down in tangible, digestible ways, offering gentle, supportive wisdom and insight to her viewers, readers and clients. Her approach is trauma-informed, mindfulness-based and compassion-focused, and blends Western clinical frameworks with Buddhist thought and practice.
Details
  • Imprint: Square Peg
  • ISBN: 9781529949612
  • Length: 304 pages
  • Price: £18.99
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