The ritual goes the exact same way every morning: I tip four exacting tablespoons of ground Guatemalan coffee beans (‘notes of dark chocolate and juicy red grape’, for those asking) into the cafetiere, then pour boiling water over the grounds and stir. Five punctual minutes later, I push the cafetiere’s plunger down slowly and pour the coffee over a few centimetres of frothy oat milk in two mugs, watching the foam rise until it’s the perfect coffee colour. I take one to my girlfriend in bed, and I return to my makeshift desk (read: the kitchen table) to take my first, deeply satisfying sip.
In a global pandemic the days blur into one, and the malaise can be heavy, but at the end of a tough 24 hours, I often go to bed excited about my morning coffee routine; it’s my raison d’être, my ‘daily inspo’. And while that might seem a bit silly, the routine – my small moment of joy I know I can look forward to each day, no matter what else is on – has been a saviour during lockdown, between isolation and news bombardments about would-be American coups and the complicated, drawn-out difficulty of Brexit.
“The idea of completing something, even if it’s just a small task each day,” Herbert argues, “gives a great sense of accomplishment. It can be very rewarding, even if it’s just making a soup, or baking: having ingredients, a method, and a time set out, and completing the task. Then you have a pie, or a cake – whatever your small project is that day.”
“Routine,” adds Crosby, “bolsters our morale, and our sense of self-trust. In my book, I speak about keeping our contracts, based on the concept of, ‘How do I begin to trust in myself?’, and it is about making those small promises to ourselves daily [and fulfilling them]. If we make promises to ourselves that aren’t achievable, and we fail to meet the mark, we can use it as another reason to flagellate ourselves, so routine works best when it’s achievable, when we start small and build from there.”
Creating a routine is not about over-scheduling your day, or needing to increase your productivity, says Crosby. If anything, adding structure and routine for your day can provide valuable moments for rest, relaxation, or whatever else might be most important to your well-being that day.
And finally, Herbert suggests a final titbit of advice that evokes my own morning routine once more.
“If you don’t feel purposeful right now – whether you’re missing the structure of work or taking your kids to school – something useful is doing something in service of others, even if it’s a small thing. Whether it’s calling your grandparents or checking in with someone or donating some clothes or food, is a nice purposeful thing that you can do, which isn’t just another work thing.”
Now if you’ll pardon me – I just have to bring my partner her morning coffee.
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