How to Make Your Relationship Work and Keep it Working!

How to Stay Together Forever

An upbeat look at how to make relationships work and keep them working

Julia Cole is a trained couple counsellor and psychosexual therapist. Alongside her own private practice, she is Development Director at the Pennell Initiative for Women's Health, a charity that champions the health rights of women during mid-life and beyond. Currently agony aunt on the Sunday Express magazine, she has contributed to many other publications, including Bella, Marie Claire, Essentials and Femail, and written several books. Her radio and television appearances include Woman's Hour, Newsbeat, Kilroy, Esther and Richard and Judy.

Statistics tell the truth with shocking clarity: four out of ten marriages in the UK end in divorce. Even sadder is that one in ten divorced men and women wish they had stayed together. Drawing on her experience as a therapist and as a writer on all aspects of sex and relationship problems, Julia Cole looks at the difficulties that commonly beset couples and offers practical ideas for overcoming them. Among the topics she tackles are:--Improving communication--Handling arguments--Finding time for each other outside work and family commitments--Sharing feelings, hopes and dreams--Making time for affection as well as sexWith quizzes and checklists to encourage reader involvement, this book's friendly, accessible style could well be the answer to many people's relationship difficulties.

Loving Yourself Loving Another

A self-help book from the Relate relationship experts for people who have not coupled with someone successfully and who wish to find love and enjoy a lasting relationship

This guide shows how self-esteem affects the quality of one's relationships. Relate counsellor Julia Cole suggests that low self-esteem -no matter whether due to one's character, upbringing or adult experiences - is one of the main reasons that people fail to have satisfying relationships. This book shows what makes people choose a particular partner, and includes advice on how to: 
 
-manage a difficult relationship where one partner withdraws or suffers from depression or aggression 
-identify what is a healthy relationship 
-build strong 'couple esteem' for a healthy, long-lasting relationship 
-and improve sex through exercises and advice

Julia Cole

This excellent organisation can help keep a marriage boat afloat and if this is what both partners want, but it can also work with a couple to bring about a state of mind where a parting can be civilised

How to build trust and love again

Finding out your partner has had an affair can feel like the ultimate betrayal and learning to trust again is difficult and painful. After the Affair takes a frank look at the reasons why people have affairs and the devastating effects they may have upon the person who has been betrayed. 
 
Since this book was first published the internet has grown hugely; websites such as Facebook have mushroomed; and mobile phones have become ubiquitous. All of these create more chances to connect with other people discreetly, quickly and at any time of the day or night. As a result, the nature of affairs is changing dramatically. 
 
After the Affair helps couples understand their feelings and explains: 
- Why affairs happen, including common triggers 
- What constitutes an affair 
- How to recover from a betrayal 
- The pros and cons of leaving or staying in a relationship, with steps to take for reconciliation or parting as amicably as possible 
 
Whether you choose to reconcile or to move on, After the Affair can help you work through your feelings and make sense of what has happened.

Julia Cole

Praise for Relate - After The Affair

This excellent organisation can help keep a marriage boat afloat and if this is what both partners want, but it can also work with a couple to bring about a state of mind where a parting can be civilised

Books by Julia Cole

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