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Advice and Exercises to Help You Unlock the Stress Cycle

The Burnout Workbook

Solve the cycle of overwhelm and exhaustion, and empower yourself to create positive change. 
 
This interactive workbook from the experts behind the New York Times bestseller Burnout offers up the tools and tips to help get you there. 
 
We all want to achieve wellness. But wellness is not a state of mind or a state of being--it's a state of action. It's the freedom to oscillate through all the cycles of being human: from effort to rest, sleeping to waking, autonomy to connection. Burnout, on the other hand, happens when we get stuck. 
 
The Burnout Workbook will help you notice when you get stuck and show you how to get unstuck - inside you'll find: 
* engaging questions 
* exercises to practise skills 
* visual guides 
* stories 
* quotes 
and more! 
 
Feel better, minimize stress, manage your emotions, and live a more joyful life. Whether or not you've read Burnout, this workbook will help you learn what true wellness can look like in your life.

Amelia Nagoski (Author) Emily and Amelia Nagoski are identical twins with doctorates in opposite fields. One a scientist, the other a musician, both are teachers and writers who approach wellbeing from the perspectives of research and practical experience. 
 
Amelia Nagoski is a conductor with a DMA in conducting from the University of Connecticut. An assistant professor and coordinator of music at Western New England university, she regularly presents educational sessions discussing application of communications science and psychological research for audiences of other professional musicians, including 'Beyond Burnout Prevention: Embodied Wellness for Conductors'. Emily Nagoski (Author) Emily Nagoski is the New York Times bestselling and award-winning author of Come as You Are and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She has an MS in counselling and a PhD in Health Behaviour, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She has been a sex educator for over twenty years, teaching women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat and a cartoonist.

This interactive workbook from the experts behind the New York Times bestseller Burnout offers up the tools and tips to help get you there. 
 
We all want to achieve wellness. But wellness is not a state of mind or a state of being - it's a state of action. It's the freedom to oscillate through all the cycles of being human: from effort to rest, sleeping to waking, autonomy to connection. Burnout, on the other hand, happens when we get stuck. 
The Burnout Workbook will help you notice when you get stuck and show you how to get unstuck - inside you'll find: 
engaging questions 
exercises to practise 
visual guides 
stories 
quotes and more! 
 
Feel better, minimize stress, manage your emotions, and live a more joyful life. Whether or not you've read Burnout, this workbook will help you learn what true wellness can look like in your life.

The secret to solving the stress cycle

Burnout

Solve Your Stress Cycle

Delivering cutting-edge science with energy, empathy and wit, this is the book all women need to take back control, end the cycle of overwhelm and live a more joyful life. Written by NYT bestselling author Emily Nagoski and her twin sister, musician Amelia Nagoski.

Burnout is mind-blowing and so helpful if you want to stop and reboot the way you live to feel much less stressed ... it is groundbreaking and practical and, unlike most books on the subject, grounded in thorough research.

Burnout is the gold standard of self-help books, delivering cutting-edge science with energy, empathy, and wit. The authors know exactly what’s going on inside of your frazzled brain and body, and exactly what you can do to fix it. Truly life-changing.

Sarah Knight, New York Times bestselling author of Calm the F*** Down

Reading Burnout I knew this was not ‘just another self-help book’ that keeps us trapped by the idea of female inadequacy. It turns our struggle with stress on its head, and paves a meaningful path to what the authors call ‘growing mighty’ by bravely dropping in thoroughly contemporary and refreshing truth bombs, like, yeah, the patriarchal system is the issue, and goddamn it’s time we play by our own rules!

Sarah Wilson, New York Times bestselling author of First, We Make the Beast Beautiful

Emily and Amelia Nagoski deconstruct the stress we experience as women, and their compassionate, science-based advice on how to release it made me cry with gratitude and relief. The book is that revolutionary.

Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape

Uncovers scientific ways to stay calm all year long ... they are tools that work, whether you're in the middle of a shitstorm at work or a passport queue ... the Nagoskis dig deep into what drives stress, unpicking the science of the mental and bodily processes that contribute to it and eventually lead to burnout. What makes this book unique is that it puts stress (specifically female stress) in a cultural context.

This book is a gift! I've been practicing their strategies, and it's a total game-changer.

Brené Brown, PhD, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Dare to Lead

Discover why women experience burnout differently than men – and the empowering, science-backed guide to minimize stress, end the cycle of overwhelm, and live a more joyful life. 
 
'A total game-changer.' Brené Brown, PhD, bestselling author of Dare to Lead and Rising Strong 
 
The gap between what it’s really like to be a woman and what the world expects women to be is overwhelming and, so often, we exhaust ourselves trying to close that gap. 
 
How can you love your body when everything around you tells you you’re inadequate? 
 
How do you ‘lean in’ at work when you’re already giving 110% and still not recognised? 
 
How can you live happily and healthily in a world that constantly tells you you’re too much - or not enough? 
 
In their ground-breaking book Burnout, sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, bestselling author of Come as You Are, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, offer an accessible, science-based approach to stress management and women’s wellbeing. They explain why burnout happens, and how to recover, reset, and prevent it. 
 
With insights from the latest research, practical advice, and simple exercises, Burnout reveals: 
<ul><li>How to complete the biological stress cycle and return your body to a state of calm</li><li>How to manage the ‘monitor’ in your brain that regulates frustration and emotional stress</li><li>How the Bikini Industrial Complex undermines body image, and how to resist it</li><li>Why rest, connection, and working with your inner critic are essential for recovery and long-term wellbeing</li></ul> 
Eye-opening and compassionate, Burnout transforms the way we understand stress, mental health, and self-care for women. It offers a clear, practical path to feeling better, building resilience, and creating a more balanced, joyful life. 
 
All women will find something transformative in these pages - and be empowered to create positive and lasting change. 
 
Praise for Burnout: 
 
‘The gold standard of self-help books, delivering cutting-edge science with energy, empathy, and wit.’ Sarah Knight, bestselling author of Calm the F*** Down 
 
‘Groundbreaking and practical and, unlike most books on the subject, grounded in thorough research.’ Sunday Times Style 
 
‘Not just another self help book… turns our struggle with stress on its head’ Sarah Wilson, bestselling author of First, We Make the Beast Beautiful 
 
‘Their compassionate, science-based advice on how to release it made me cry with gratitude and relief. The book is that revolutionary’ Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls & Sex

Emily Nagoski

Every couple I see in therapy comes in with cultural myths and misperceptions about sex that get in the way of the connection they desire. Emily Nagoski gifts us with an illuminating, relatable, and often funny book that completely reframes how we think about sex in long-term relationships. Come Together is a game-changer and should be required reading for every couple who wants to reimagine what great sex can look like.

Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast

Come Together is a revelation! It gives us the permission to redefine intimacy on our terms through engaging storytelling and science. It’s time we replace shame and obligation with exploration and pleasure. A must read!

Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play

Come Together is wise and deeply comforting. Once again, Emily Nagoski is dismantling myths about sexuality and giving everyone permission to discover what is already true and love what they discover.

Angela Chen, author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

A generous book that will help readers unpick everything they've been told about sex, and access more pleasure in the process.

Natasha Lunn, Sunday Times bestselling author of Conversations on Love

Emily Nagoski is a national treasure – helping us all understand how to finally build true, joyful, confident sex lives.

Reassuring, wise, compassionate and funny, without falling into the twee or bantery tone that riddles many sex books. She is first and foremost a teacher and it shows - the information is straightforwardly written, with clarity and structure.

This is not only an accessible, gentle-hearted guide to a still-taboo topic; it’s a fascinating exploration of how our most intimate connections cannot just endure but thrive.

The blend of science and storytelling that Nagoski’s readers expect is on full display throughout this affirming, inclusive guide, which has the potential to transform readers’ sex lives and their general well-being . . . An essential purchase.

Empowering and pragmatic . . . Nagoski’s prose is spry and inviting as she marshals research and anecdotes (many featuring nonbinary couples) to dispel notions of ‘normal’ sex, ban sexual expectations and judgements, and advocate ‘liv[ing] with confidence and joy’ in one’s body. It’s a valuable resource for anyone looking to spruce up a subpar sex life or make a good one better.

Come Together is an inclu­sive, good-humored, and reassuring book that offers something for every couple in a long-term relationship.

The Science (and Art) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER 
 
‘Reassuring, wise, compassionate and funny’ - THE TIMES 
 
The must-read guide on the science of making lasting sexual connections, from the bestselling author of Come As You Are 
 
What does it really take to create lasting sexual connections in long-term relationships? 
 
Most couples struggle at some point to maintain their sexual connection. But a lot of the advice we are given on sex is either not very good or steeped in cultural assumptions and expectations that can end up hurting us. 
 
In Come Together, leading sexual wellness educator, Dr Emily Nagoski, takes on one of the most misunderstood subjects of all time - sex in long-term relationships - and shows us that most of what we've been taught about enjoying sex is wrong. 
 
Featuring inclusive stories and examples from a wide range of couples and individuals, you'll find out what great sex really looks like and the best way to overcome obstacles - including relationship conflicts, gendered beliefs about how sex 'should be' and body image worries. 
 
With insight, humour and empathy, Come Together will radically transform the way you approach sex and desire, and empower you to create long-term, fulfilling sexual connections.

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