A Fresh Start for Parents and Adult Children

Hello Again

Discover the true potential of one of the most important relationships in your life

Gabor Maté is one of the most interesting and original voices now out there addressing the crisis of mental health in our culture.

Gabor Maté’s connections – between the intensely personal and the global, the spiritual and the medical, the psychological and the political – are bold, wise and deeply moral. He is a healer to be cherished

Naomi Klein, author of No Logo and The Shock Doctrine

Dr. Maté has completely transformed how the world sees, talks about and understands trauma. And he has absolutely had that impact on me and it's been life-changing

Gabor Maté (Author) 
Dr Gabor Maté is a retired physician and bestselling author of five books published across six continents. He is an internationally renowned speaker. His most recent book, The Myth of Normal, has been translated into more than 40 languages and is a New York Times, Sunday Times and international bestseller. 
 
Daniel Maté (Author) 
Daniel Maté is an acclaimed musical theatre songwriter and a playwright whose work has been performed across multiple continents. Since 2024 Daniel has co-hosted the popular political satire podcast 'Bad Hasbara: The World's Most Moral Podcast.'

For anyone who has ever thought, 'I love them – so why is this so hard?' 
 
From the New York Times bestselling authors of The Myth of Normal, a path forward for both parents and adult children locked in a difficult relationship. 
 
 What happens when the people who shaped you, or the ones you shaped, are the very ones you can’t seem to reach – or can’t bear to be close to anymore?In Hello Again, clinician and trauma expert Dr Gabor Maté joins his son Daniel Maté to illuminate the uniquely charged bond between parents and their adult children – a relationship defined by love, history and an imbalance of power that never fully disappears.Drawing on decades of clinical insight, hard-won personal experience and their widely attended workshops, the Matés show why this 'set menu, no substitutions' relationship so often becomes the site of recurring misunderstandings, resentment, withdrawal or explosive conflict – even when both sides genuinely want things to be better.This book doesn’t promise a tidy reconciliation or a 'happy ending.' Instead, it offers something more realistic and more hopeful: a fresh start – whether that means rebuilding closeness, establishing steadier boundaries or finding peace at a distance.Inside you’ll find: 
<ul><li>A clear map of why the parent/adult-child bond is uniquely triggering – and why it’s also uniquely repairable</li><li>Parent and adult-child 'prototype' patterns that reveal what’s really happening beneath the argument</li><li>Practical tools to pause, self-regulate and communicate without collapsing into old roles</li><li>Boundary guidance that protects dignity without hardening into punishment</li><li>A realistic approach to accountability, grief and forgiveness – without self-erasure</li><li>Paths forward that honour safety, including less contact when that is the healthiest choice</li></ul> 
Hello Again is a wise and steady companion toward clearer seeing, truer connection and lasting change.

Gabor Maté

Daniel Maté

Gabor Mate takes us on an epic journey of discovery about how our emotional well-being, and our social connectivity (in short: how we live), is intimately intertwined with health, disease and addictions ... This riveting and beautifully written tale has profound implications for all of our lives, including the practice of medicine and mental health

Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score

Wise, sophisticated, rigorous and creative: an intellectual and compassionate investigation of who we are and who we may become

A book literally everyone will be enriched by - a wise, profound and healing work that is the culmination of Dr Maté's many years of deep and painfully accumulated wisdom

An astonishing achievement, epic in scope and yet profoundly down-to-earth and practical. I will read this book again and again

V (formerly Eve Ensler), author of The Vagina Monologues

Brilliant, compelling and groundbreaking. Gabor Maté offers us a way to bring clear seeing and a greatness of heart to the crisis of our times

A book in which readers can seek refuge and solace during moments of profound personal and social crisis

Esther Perel, psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity

Gabor Maté's connections - between the intensely personal and the global, the spiritual and the medical, the psychological and the political - are bold, wise and deeply moral. He is a healer to be cherished

A compelling book that will challenge your views and help lift the veil of illusion to what is truly happening in your mind and in your body

Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness

Gripping ... a powerful call for change in how we live with, love, understand, treat, and think about each other

Rebecca Solnit, author of Men Explaining Everything To Me

Dr Maté has completely transformed how the world sees, talks about and understands trauma. And he has absolutely had that impact on me and it's been life-changing.

Mel Robbins, #1 global bestselling author of The Let Them Theory

Illness, health & healing in a toxic culture

The empowering book exploring the link between trauma, illness, and modern life – and how to heal your health. From the acclaimed physician and bestselling author of When The Body Says No. 
 
THE INSTANT SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER 
OVER ONE MILLION COPIES SOLD 
 
‘Life-changing’ Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The Let Them Theory 
 
‘Riveting and beautifully written’ Bessel van der Kolk, bestselling author of The Body Keeps Score 
 
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We tend to believe that normality equals health. But in today’s modern world, rising rates of anxiety, depression, addiction and chronic illness suggest otherwise. So, what is normal – and is it making us unwell? 
 
In this life-affirming book, Dr Gabor Maté connects the dots between trauma, mental health, and physical illness, showing how our health is shaped by the pressures and expectations of modern life. 
 
Drawing on decades of clinical experience, and real-life stories of people transforming their bodies and minds, Dr Gabor Maté offers a compassionate and hopeful path to healing, self-awareness and emotional wellbeing. 
 
In The Myth of Normal, you’ll discover: 
<ul><li>Why the illnesses of body and mind can natural responses to a toxic culture</li><li>How stress and emotional suppression affect the body</li><li>The science behind the mind-body connection in healing and wellbeing</li><li>A hopeful path towards resilience, balance and authenticity</li></ul> 
Compassionate and urgent, this empowering bestseller shows how true health is possible when we are willing to embrace our authentic selves. 
 
Praise for The Myth of Normal and Dr Gabor Maté: 
 
‘Genuinely changed my life’ Steven Bartlett, bestselling author of Diary of A CEO 
 
‘Intellectual and compassionate…essential reading’ Tara Westover, bestselling author of Educated 
 
‘A wise, profound and healing work’ Johann Hari, bestselling author of Stolen Focus 
 
‘Brilliant, compelling and groundbreaking book’ Tara Brach, bestselling author of Radical Acceptance and Radical Compassion 
 
‘An essential compass during disorienting times.’ Esther Perel, psychotherapist, bestselling author and host of Where Should We Begin

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