Ruby Rare

In a world where our identity, needs and desires are constantly shifting and evolving, Ruby is a reassuring whisper in our ear. Her words encourage us to be bold, to explore, to live a life fantastic. To embrace a sexual psyche that yearns to be unleashed and demands to be seen. It’s a different way of loving, and it’s a rare gift indeed

Anna Richardson, presenter and journalist

Ruby's voice is an essential antidote to the outdated scripts we were all given for sex and relationships. Warm, relatable, and informed AF, Ruby is the perfect teacher for anyone looking to explore themselves more fully. In fact, she's the sex ed teacher we all deserved.

Megan Crabbe, Bodyposipanda, bestselling author and presenter

A friendly, approachable, and deeply personal guide to non-monogamous relationships.

An absolutely superb introduction to all things non-monogamous. Ruby balances a hugely enjoyable and exuberant writing style with a serious richness of research and depth of questioning. Kind and thoughtful throughout, this is just the book you need wherever you’re at on your own non-monogamy journey.

Meg-John Barker, Author of Rewriting the Rules and How To Understand Your Relationships

Ruby broaches multiple aspects of non-monogamy in an unassuming, compassionate and humorous way, so it feels like you're learning about non-monogamy from your best friend. It's easy to become overwhelmed by jargon and complicated nuances in the non-monogamy community. Ruby gives you the information you need in the moment in a really useful and easily understandable way. It's a great start for people who are brand new to non-monogamy, and even a great refresher for those of us that could use a more caring and delightful voice.

Lola Phoenix, Author of Non-Monogamy Help

What a necessary, exciting and thrilling book. I kept exclaiming 'oh now I get it!' This book doesn't judge, it just takes your hand and walks you through something you maybe didn't understand. Educational, funny, beautiful and freeing. I believe this book is going to free a lot of people, who might not even know they're stuck. I just put it down and I want to read it again. Everyone should read this.

As ever Ruby takes the big, hard stuff and removes the fear from it. Non-monogamy can be tricky terrain, but this book not only gives us a map with which to navigate it, Ruby’s writing reminds us that it’s sexy, fun and enriching to get a little lost in the landscape along the way.

Tom Rasmussen, musician, author and drag performer

Exploring Polyamory and Open Relationships with Confidence

‘Fantastic. Full to the brim with practical tips and well-researched guidance, this is a comprehensive handbook for the realities of managing multiple relationships’ – PAUL BRUNSON, author and MAFS dating expert 
 
'Warm, relatable, and informed AF' – MEGAN JAYNE CRABBE, author and presenter 
 
The Non-Monogamy Playbook is the handbook for anyone curious about consensual non-monogamy: polyamory and open relationships. 
 
This is a practical, joyful guide to the rules of non-traditional relationships. It uncovers the long history of non-monogamy, and explores why society today still favours monogamous, heteronormative relationships as gold standard. 
 
Ruby's weaves in her own relationship learnings with humour and empathy, and offers empowering tools for dealing with the complexities - and joys - of polyamory. She provides expert but sisterly advice on setting boundaries and cultivating self-compassion, as well as ways to navigate the myriad practical considerations of sustaining multiple relationships. 
 
The Non-Monogamy Playbook shows us that there's joy in having multiple people in your life (platonic, sexy, romantic), but with each connection there is added vulnerability. This is the ultimate modern guide to non-monogamy, helping you create confident, healthy relationships.

Ruby Rare

Praise for The Non-Monogamy Playbook

In a world where our identity, needs and desires are constantly shifting and evolving, Ruby is a reassuring whisper in our ear. Her words encourage us to be bold, to explore, to live a life fantastic. To embrace a s ...

Ruby's voice is an essential antidote to the outdated scripts we were all given for sex and relationships. Warm, relatable, and informed AF, Ruby is the perfect teacher for anyone looking to explore themselves more ...

A friendly, approachable, and deeply personal guide to non-monogamous relationships.

In a world where our identity, needs and desires are constantly shifting and evolving, Ruby is a reassuring whisper in our ear. Her words encourage us to be bold, to explore, to live a life fantastic. To embrace a s ...

Ruby's voice is an essential antidote to the outdated scripts we were all given for sex and relationships. Warm, relatable, and informed AF, Ruby is the perfect teacher for anyone looking to explore themselves more ...

A friendly, approachable, and deeply personal guide to non-monogamous relationships.

In a world where our identity, needs and desires are constantly shifting and evolving, Ruby is a reassuring whisper in our ear. Her words encourage us to be bold, to explore, to live a life fantastic. To embrace a s ...

Ruby's voice is an essential antidote to the outdated scripts we were all given for sex and relationships. Warm, relatable, and informed AF, Ruby is the perfect teacher for anyone looking to explore themselves more ...

A friendly, approachable, and deeply personal guide to non-monogamous relationships.

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