How to be You

How to be You

Say Goodbye to Should, Would and Could So That You Can


The latest feel-good book packed with practical tips from the author of the smash-hit book on ADHD, autism and neurodivergence, UNMASKED.

Ellie Middleton is back with a new, practical book to help you work WITH your neurodivergent brain rather than AGAINST it. In each chapter, she writes about the eight executive functions that neurodivergent people struggle with including working memory, prioritisation and emotional regulation and shares 5 simple tips for readers to try out, including:

- Creating a launch pad to remember the essentials when you leave the house

- Drawing a car park of ideas to help visualise your thoughts and manage impulse control

- The 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 mindfulness technique to prevent spiralling and regulate emotions

- Breaking up each day into Four Quadrants to approach every day with more flexibility

This isn’t another journal or planner that claims to organize your entire life because Ellie is the first to admit that she doesn’t have things under control 100% of the time. This also is not a book about how to fit into the neurotypical way of doing things (aka masking). Instead, Ellie reveals why society tells us that we ‘should’ do things (read: patriarchy, ableism, White supremacy) and shows us how we can all free ourselves of those expectations, feel empowered and, ultimately, be more YOU.

About the author

Ellie Middleton

Ellie Middleton is an activist, speaker and writer committed to breaking taboos and empowering neurodivergent people to thrive in and out of the workplace. She is the founder of (un)masked, a community for neurodivergent people and author of the smash-hit UNMASKED. How to Be You is her second book.
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