Raising and Praising Boys

Essential advice for parents on how to praise boys in the most appropriate and effective way

Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer is the author of two parenting skills programmes and four bestselling practical books on parenting; all of which are published in the USA. She is a freelance journalist and writer in the UK, writing for leading national newspapers such as the London Times (parents page), The Independent (education features), the Observer (comment and focus pieces on social policy) and the Daily Telegraph (education). She has also contributed seminar papers on various aspects of children's mental health and learning to London University's Institute of Education and the Institute for Public Policy Research, a leading UK think tank.

One of the biggest lessons we have learnt in the last few decades is that it is valuable, important and effective to praise children. Children respond much better to encouragement than they do to punishment, which is why praising them is considered fundamental in helping them develop self-esteem and strong self-belief. However, the wrong kind of praise can do more harm than good, creating children who lose all sense of rational judgement and are too readily wrong-footed when they meet difficulty. 
 
In this practical, common-sense guide, Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer shows parents why understanding and acknowledging boys' sensibilities is the key to knowing how to award their sons with the right sort of praise. Using insightful, accessible tips, she reveals: 
 
- why boys need regular but small doses of positive feedback to prevent them from becoming distracted or losing focus in their work 
- what makes the father/son relationship instrumental in ensuring boys receive the right praise 
- why female approval may have less value in the eyes of young boys than male approval

Happy Children Through Positive Parenting

The essential guide for all parents who wish to encourage self-esteem, self-reliance and self-confidence in their children

Gives wise, kind and simple advice on trying to do better with children

thought-provoking...practical, easy-to-read, it offers valuable insights and guides...an interesting read worth dipping into on a regular basis

Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer is the author of two parenting skills programmes and four bestselling practical books on parenting; all of which are also published in the USA. She is a freelance journalist and writer in the UK, writing for leading national newspapers such as the London Times (parents page), the Independent (education features), the Observer (comment and focus pieces on social policy) and the Daily Telegraph (education). She has also contributed seminar papers on various aspects of children's mental health and learning to London University's Institute of Education and the Institute for Public Policy Research, a leading UK think tank.

Happy Children through Positive Parenting is a parenting book with a difference. It does not tell parents how and when to potty train or when to introduce children to solid food. Instead it argues what really matters is helping children to grow up feeling secure and good about themselves, enabling them to gain positive self-esteem. 
 
Knowing and liking yourself is so often the key to success in life - affecting personal relationships, general motivation and success in work. Using key words such as 'praise', 'play', 'time', 'touch' and 'talk' Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer speaks to new and experienced parents alike about what helps children to develop and what blocks progress. No matter how difficult parenting may have seemed in the past, this book offers a clear and simple way forward in the most influential relationship of all - that between parent and child.

100 Tips for Raising Happy and Confident Children

Self Esteem For Girls

Important advice for parents and teachers who wish to encourage self-esteem, self-reliance and self-confidence in girls is contained in this easy-to-read guide.

Self-Esteem for Girls is an essential guide for helping parents and teachers support girls through the difficulties of growing up. Self-esteem is what every parent wishes their daughter to have. It is her passport to a happier, more fulfilled life. The quiet confidence that self-respect gives to girls ensures that they learn to learn, play, love and communicate better. This practical book explains when difficult stages are likely to occur in girls' lives, and suggests how parents and teachers can handle them in ways that will build confidence and promote self-esteem. Elizabeth Harley-Brewer shows how to: 
 
- Understand the challenges and opportunities that girls face today 
- Help girls develop the inner strength to cope with the demands of school, friends and society 
- Manage girls' behaviour in a way that preserves and promotes their self-esteem 
- Respond sensitively when girls suffer setbacks

Self Esteem For Boys

Important advice for parents and teachers who wish to encourage self-e steem, self-reliance and self-confidence in boys is contained in this easy-to-read guide.

SELF-ESTEEM FOR BOYS is an essential guide for helping parents and tea chers support boys through the difficulties of growing up. Self-esteem is what every parent wishes their son to have. It is his passport to a happier, more fulfilled life. The quiet confidence that self-respect gives to boys ensures that they learn to learn, play, love and commun icate better. This practical book suggests ways to handle difficult stages in boys' lives, and when they are likely to occur, so that those who deal with them may help them to gain self-esteem. Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer shows how to: --Understand the challenges and opportunities that boys face today; --Help boys develop the inner strength to resist peer group demands; --Manage boys' behaviour in a way that preserves and promotes their self -esteem; --Respond sensitively when boys suffer setbacks;

Raising Children with Self-Esteem

Positive Parenting

An essential Guide for parents, explaining how to instil a sense of security and healthy self - regard in their children.

Positive Parenting is a parenting book with a difference. It does not tell you the practicalities of raising a child such as how to potty train, or when to introduce solids foods. Instead, it argues that what really matters is helping children to grow up feeling secure and good about themselves. Children -like adults- perform best when they feel good about themselves. This book will show you how to help your child develop: * positive self-esteem * self-confidence * self reliance Positive self-esteem is the best gift any parent can give their child. Knowing yourself and liking yourself is so often the key to success in life-affecting personal relationships, general motivation and success in work. Using key words like 'praise', 'play', 'touch' and 'talk', this book speaks to new and exerienced parents alike about what helps children develop and what blocks progress. Positive Parenting will empower and encourage, affirming that is okay to do it your way. No matter how difficult parenting may have been in the past, Positive Thinking offers a clear and simple way forward in the most influential relationship of all-that between parent and child

Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer

One of the biggest lessons we have learnt in the last few decades is that it is valuable, important and effective to praise children. Children respond much better to encouragement than they do to punishment, which is why praising them is considered fundamental in helping them develop self-esteem and strong self-belief. However, the wrong kind of praise can do more harm than good, creating children who lose all sense of rational judgement and are too readily wrong-footed when they meet difficulty. 
 
In this practical, common-sense guide, Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer reveals why understanding and acknowledging girls' unique sensibilities is the key to knowing how to award them with the right sort of praise. Using insightful, accessible tips, she shows parents how to: 
 
- combat the perfectionism girls are often susceptible to and encourage them to be creative and take risks 
- boost girls' self-confidence and belief in themselves 
- be discriminating in their praise in order to maximise its effect 
- teach girls not to fear failure but to accept it and learn from it

Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer

Books by Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer

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