What am I Missing?

What am I Missing?

Discover the Four Blind Spots That are Holding You Back, and How to Overcome Them


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One of the UK’s best-loved psychotherapists reveals the blind spots that are clouding our judgement and affecting our relationships, and shares the tools to overcome them

Have you ever had a conversation with a friend or relative that’s hit a nerve and you can’t figure out why it bothered you so much? Over the course of her 15-year career, Emma has discovered that the root of this pain and confusion often lies in a blind spot: a gap in our awareness that distorts how we perceive ourselves and our loved ones which, left unchallenged, can leave us feeling unloved, insecure or overwhelmed.

In What am I Missing? Emma reveals the four blind spot profiles along with client case studies to demonstrate how they show up in daily life, and exercises to help us see past them:

Are you THE GLADIATOR, determined but missing trust?

THE BRIDGE, easy-going but missing authenticity?

THE HUSTLER, charming but missing self-worth?

Or THE ROCK, resilient but missing boundaries?

Like sitting with your own therapist, What am I Missing? will help you understand yourself and your loved ones better than ever before, and gives you the keys to a happier life.

‘This book changed my life. An invaluable guide to uncovering the things we don't know about ourselves and to reclaiming our power by addressing them. A fantastic, enlightening read.’ Elizabeth Day

‘Beautifully observed, insightful and validating, this book will help you understand yourself and your relationships like never before’ Julia Samuel, psychotherapist and author of Grief Works

‘This book gives both a smart, digestible and practical guide to knowing yourself better and case studies which highlight how so much of what we struggle with is entirely human.’ Kate Moyle, Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist and author of The Science Of Sex

©2024 Emma Reed Turrell (P)2024 Penguin Audio


  • Everyone should read What am I Missing?
    Dr Alex George, Stompcast

About the author

Emma Reed Turrell

Emma Reed Turrell is a psychotherapist, writer, speaker and podcaster. She runs a busy private practice alongside co-hosting the Best Friend Therapy podcast with Elizabeth Day. Emma lives in Winchester with her husband, two children and two golden retrievers. Her first book Please Yourself focused on people-pleasing, What am I Missing? is her second book.
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