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How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (As Well As the Ones You Don’t)

A compassionate guide to rage, regulation and repair

You didn’t used to be like this.
The sharp words, the slammed drawers, the guilt that follows. You tell yourself to hold it together, but somehow, you keep finding yourself back here.

Psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur knows that moment well. One evening, hot and exhausted in her kitchen as her children argued and whined, she felt the heat rise up and spill out in a shout that left her shaken and ashamed. That moment became the spark for this book.

What if your anger isn’t bad, and it isn’t something you need to get rid of?

For too long, we’ve been told to bottle it up, to keep smiling, to push it down. But anger is normal. Anger is necessary. And when you learn to understand it, it can become one of your greatest allies.

In How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love, Anna helps you see rage not as shameful or dangerous, but as a signal pointing to your unmet needs, crossed boundaries and emotional overload. Through gentle insight and practical tools, she shows how to catch it sooner, recover faster, repair more deeply and use its energy for change instead of destruction.

Because anger doesn’t mean you're broken, it makes you human. And when you learn to listen to it, it can become your greatest source of clarity, compassion and connection.

About Anna Mathur

Anna Mathur is a psychotherapist and bestselling author. She's passionate about taking therapy beyond the consulting room, sharing honest, supportive insights drawn from her personal and professional experience. She offers encouragement through her books, Instagram (@annamathur), online courses, in-person events and her podcast, The Therapy Edit, which has reached over four million downloads. Anna also works with corporate organisations to support mental wellbeing and regularly share her thoughts in national media, including TV, radio and press.
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  • Imprint: Penguin Life
  • ISBN: 9780241707210
  • Length: 336 pages
  • Price: £18.99
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